By Charisse N. Montgomery
Starting a family seems to be a normal course of events for most people. We find someone we love, we settle down and get married, and then we want to extend our love by adding to our family. Sometimes, though, this process is not as easy as we would like it to be. Despite the media impressions of black women having eight kids by the age of 25, fertility doesn’t necessarily work this way for all of us. Because we have the idea that having children will be easy, it can be hard to deal with when it doesn’t play out that way, and it can be embarrassing and disheartening when others expect it to. For that reason, I’m sharing my own fertility story; when I looked for resources on how to deal with this issue, I found none that were written from the perspective of black women or that even showed the faces of black women dealing with infertility.